Hurt?

Hurt and disappointment inflicted by others is an inevitable experience that we all must face at some point in our lives. Someone you trust, care about or maybe even love is going to let you down. You probably wondered why and what you did to deserve such treatment. These experiences, however, can potentially serve as lifelong lessons…if you let them. I have posted three common culprits.

The “Can’t Get Over the Past” Type People: There are just people in the world who are bitter, plain and simple. Someone hurt them or mistreated them so they vow to not invest their own emotions in people anymore. This is a mistake because they are making the world pay for the ignorant actions of a single person…or maybe they’ve been hurt by more than one person–who knows? Of the millions of people in the world, you think they are all out to get you? It’s quite silly and I’m not trying to downplay or discredit any trauma anyone has experienced in their lives to make them feel that way. The mistreatment that they experienced could be as minor as a crush embarrassing them in front of their friends or as major being molested by someone they trusted as a child. Making someone else feel the hurt and pain that you once felt and that was inflicted by someone else is just cruel to me. Get therapy, get help, do what you have to do…otherwise you will never be able to have a healthy, functional relationship and you will just be continuing the cycle…

The “Get You Before They Get Got” Type People: There are some people that have never been hurt but have this skewed logic that hurt is a part of all relationships so they decide they want to hurt other people first, before they are hurt themselves. This is just immaturity at its finest. No matter how hard you try, getting hurt is simply a part of life. Instead of trying to avoid it, embrace those learning experiences. The greatest and most fulfilling things in life require great risks! If you avoid taking those risks, you will never be able to reap those potential benefits and any hurt you experience along the way will only make you stronger for the undertaking of your next risk!

The “World Revolves Around Me” Type People: There are some people who are selfish. They are only concerned with themselves and who or what they can use to further their own agenda. Their agenda could be popularity or fame, could be getting rich, could be presenting a certain false image of themselves, trying to assure themselves or others of their importance, etc… (note the superficiality of all those things) A lot of these things are ways they try to fill a void by trying to convince the world that there is no void. “He’s rich? He must have everything he could ever want!!” “He’s got all these girls after him? What a lucky man!!” Please do NOT be fooled!

People that intentionally hurt other people, have issues! It is them, not you. You walk away feeling a little hurt and disappointed and they walk away with the same issues that they came in with, unresolved and awaiting a repeat with the next person. They will never have a healthy and functional relationship…but you? Once you deal with your emotions properly, you are ready for that next risk equipped with more smarts. Hopefully, you will not have to make that particular mistake twice. Nevertheless these people may come back with a new attitude, aware that you care for them, in terms of a relationship. But if someone cannot see past themselves and their personal issues to realize how amazing you are, then that is their loss and their mistake.

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