Lets Have a Toast

I came up with this about an hour ago :)

Run Away - Kanye West (Love Remix)

I think its time for us to have a toast.

Lets have a toast to the good girls,

the ones who don't support hoes,

Lets have a toast to the school girls,everyone of them that I know.

Lets have a toast to no make-up, the girls who don't cake up.

Babe if you got a man, keep him from slews if you can. -

Jonye West (Kanye West)

Love You First

Love and relationships are presented to us as this glamorous necessity at a young age. If not first through a healthy relationship between our parents, then subtly through Disney movies with the beautiful princess and handsome prince that live happily ever after. As a result, we grow up expecting the presence of such relationships in our lives with no clear instructions on how to attain them. The truth is, there are no real instructions. A lot of dating and relationships is just trial and error. You encounter different people to help you discover your likes and dislikes, what works for you and what doesn’t.

I was talking with a friend the other day that was really down on themselves about not being able to find someone to settle down with. They were tired of being lonely, getting rejected and disappointed and feeling undesired by the opposite sex. After listening to my friend, I further realized the importance of loving yourself first to building a healthy relationship with someone else.

Nobody knows YOU better than YOU and your relationship with yourself should take priority over your relationship with anyone else. If you don’t think and feel that you are absolutely amazing, then why should anyone else? You don’t really give them a reason to. You should know and feel more than anyone else what a wonderful person you are. If you don’t feel like the wonderful and amazing person that you are, then you need to work on that first and foremost before pursuing a relationship. Learning how to be alone and love yourself is necessary because you have to be able to be happy and love yourself when it’s just you. Otherwise, you depend on the other person for that validation and unfortunately, sometimes people take advantage of that. If you feel good about yourself, then it doesn’t matter who mistreats or rejects you. At the end of the day, you always know that they are the ones missing out and not you. It is so important to (wait for and) find someone that recognizes how great you are and values and appreciates your presence in their lives. When you are dealing with people, especially outside of your family (but even sometimes in your family), you never know how long they are going to be in your life. A lot of people are meant to be in your life for only a season. You have to be careful about whom you invest your time, energy and emotions in, however you can NEVER go wrong with investing in yourself.


@SeeFurtherThanIAm

A Quote I Created

I wrote this a while back. I think it should be passed down:

Karma don't know me
But I did my best to treat her right
I even harbored my homies
Lent out when moneys tight
Karma you owe me.

Pass it on if you like it

Sorry I haven't posted in a while

Remember Good Grades

In elementary school, one of the most exciting things for me was to get my homework returned with a colorful little sticker on it. I don’t even remember if they actually gave grades or anything like that but that sticker was always associated with a job well done. As I got older, actual letter or number grades replaced the stickers. How well I was doing compared to my peers or how each grade affects my chances of earning an A in the class became of more concern.

I started thinking about the wonderful people that I have in my life. They care about me, pay attention to me and want nothing but the best for me. They know my potential and want me to fulfill and exceed it. I feel that their presence in my life is a true blessing. Then, I wondered if they knew it. As much as I enjoy receiving the encouragement, do I give out comparable encouragement to those around me when they need it? Do I even encourage those that encourage me to ‘keep up the good work’ and adequately show my appreciation? Does a simple thank you and smile really accurately express the amount of appreciation I have for them? Do I assume they can just read my mind and automatically know?

I encourage you to remember that just as much as those ‘colorful little stickers’ at just the right moment make us feel good, other people need the love and encouragement at some point too. When the ‘colorful little sticker’ is missing, it opens the door for negative feelings. Some people are able to use that as motivation to try harder and do better next time. Others associate it with their potential and self-worth. In order to spread the positivity to those we love and care about, make a conscious effort to let them know that you love them, appreciate them, notice them, are proud of them and to keep up the good work!

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Forgiving Others

As said in a previous post, hurt and disappointment inflicted by others is an inevitable experience that we all must face at some point in our lives. We have zero control over the actions of others or the negative feelings their actions can sometimes evoke. We can either drag on these feelings of hurt and disappointment or accept what has happened and begin moving on.

When someone has done you wrong, it’s common for you to take on the role of the victim. But the key is not to exploit this role for attention, sympathy and confirmation, which is very easy to do (and you may not even realize that you are doing it). After getting hurt, you really just want to know that at least someone out there cares and that someone is on your side, right? There are plenty of people that care and that are on your side, but this isn’t really the ideal way to go about soliciting their support. (i.e. Telling anyone who will listen about what so & so did to you)

When you ignore someone, talk badly about them, are rude to them, don’t forgive them, etc…you are clearly indicating that you have not yet gotten past the pain that they caused you. In addition to prolonging the drama, you are either consciously or subconsciously trying to spread your pain to them. These are not good, healthy ways to deal with your emotions and get closure. Often times, this causes you to carry baggage into your future relationships. (i.e. Having trust issues because someone cheated on you)

As far as closure goes, I hear too often of people seeking closure from the person that hurt them. It’s natural to want to know what someone was thinking, why they hurt you, if they ever cared about you. 99% of the time, you are not going to get the answers to those questions because nobody likes to admit when they are wrong or dwell on poor decisions. Often times, there really isn’t a valid explanation to be offered if they have even thought about it. I think that actively seeking closure is most times unrealistic. It can’t be forced.
Additionally, the person that hurt you could potentially identify that your closure is dependent on them and take advantage of that. (i.e. Everytime you try to walk away, they do or say something to pull you back into the same emotional roller-coaster)

Forgiveness is something that you do on your own time and of your own will. It should not be dependent on anyone but you. Sometimes you just have to take people for what they are. Regardless of what they did to you, now you know what they are capable of and not to put yourself in that position again and/or to be more cautious. He told me to make the conscious decision to LET IT GO and no longer let anyone or anything (that most times aren’t even worth your time and energy) steal your joy.

If the person that hurt you has apologized and still wants to pursue a friendship or relationship with you, then this is at your discretion. If you choose to continue to deal with this person, you should be a little cautious but also make sure you have truly forgiven them. You can’t hold the past against them when you insinuate that you have forgiven them and are trying to move on. This is taking a step backwards. If you find that you can’t move on with that person serving as a constant reminder of the hurt and disappointment that you experienced, then perhaps it’s a sign that they are no more forward steps in the relationship. At which point, it would be best to continue pursuing the forward steps to forgiveness and moving on independently.

Lastly, Forgiveness is a huge part of the maturation process. Forgiveness in itself is a process whose length and difficulty vary by situation. Sometimes, we feel as though certain things could just never ever be forgiven. I urge you to remember that you are not perfect and have also inflicted hurt and disappointment to someone else at some point in your life. Hopefully, all encounters with forgiveness (forgiving others, others forgiving us and us forgiving ourselves) are lessons learned about how we allow others to treat us, how we treat others and how we treat ourselves.

Letting Go...

Have you ever wondered why you always end up getting hurt? Have you ever wondered what you have done to deserve the constant lack of respect for you and your feelings? Have you ever wondered why your kind and caring approach to people isn’t always reciprocated?

I have discovered the answer…in most cases, it is because people only treat you the way that you allow them to. We have a lot more control than we choose to realize over the kinds of feelings that would cause one to pose the questions listed above. We are not as helpless and powerless as we think we are. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

The problem is we hold onto who that person was or who we want them to be. We make excuses for their behavior. It takes two people to have a friendship or be in a relationship and one person cannot carry that weight. It’s simply impossible. In doing so, it is inevitable that we experience the hurt, disrespect and lack of reciprocity. Is it really worth it? Life is too short to try to change someone that you know doesn’t want to change. What you can change is them being in your life. Of course, this is much easier said than done. Letting go is one of the hardest things we face in life. However, time is one of the most unforgiving things. Once it’s gone, you can never get it back. So ask yourself, are you investing your time in the actual person or who they used to be or who they have the potential to be?

Always remember, you are wonderful and amazing! Anyone should be happy to share a friendship or relationship with you and if they choose not to, then that is their loss. You deserve nothing less than the best

Valentines Day Poem...

I wrote this shit for my girl a while back...


I'm sure you'll know when im gone.
when i am at first it'll seem wrong

Hamilton girls throw me away quick
from 11 to 16 take your pick (lol)

i have no size
to lose me something else has to rise

to keep me, don't chill with horny guys
if your decent
you'll give that certain dude a try

i am transparent
you can't see me, and
eventually you'll want to get rid of me

what am i?

i am your...

No Testimony Without Test

The older we get, the responsibilities and challenges we face get bigger and more difficult. Just when things have finally been going well for a while, something or someone comes along and turns our world upside down.

I’m sure you have heard the wise saying passed down from older generations that, “There is no testimony without a test.” A lot of times during tranquil moments, we stop praying or thinking about what God has done for us. We stop thanking Him and then when a “test” comes along we start calling on Him and expect Him to come running! God wants to know if we can trust him even in the midst of our troubles, heartbreaks, disappointments, grief, whatever it may be! How is He going to find that out or develop that in us, if we are not tested? He wants us to love Him all the time and not just for what He can do for us. Some people, including me at times, take on these victimized mentalities which cloud the things which should be the true focus. “What did I do to deserve this?” “Why is this happening to me now of all times?” I look at my plate and how full it is and I get overwhelmed! I don’t need to look at the plate though, I need to look to God and remember that He can do the impossible!

The tests that we encounter in life are essential to helping us appreciate good times more, teaching us life lessons and giving us a testimony to share. Whenever you find yourself dealing with really difficult times, remember that in order for there to be a valley, there has to be two mountains

An Old Poem

I was just going through my emails and found an old poem of mine.

I thought it was pretty good so I figured I'd share it with whoever it is that
visits my page.

Here you go, a little Vintage Jonny:

Media had taken me away from me
Confused and unsure of what i wanted to be
Categorized peers made being myself tough
Retaining my own image had also been a little rough
I was the shortest in my class, looking up to everyone
Spoke with a high pitch tone, I sounded like Maryon

Now I'm me myself and I know where i fit in society
Im optimistic about my future and have created a path to fidelity
I've also become more of an individual, going in my own direction
I am ok, but i know i will soon be in need of some love and affection.
Finally, I am looking down on others, and my voice has changed
To fanticise is a hobby, which is kinda strange.
But through all of this, I've learned one main thing
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I think I was looking ahead in this poem
Because the 2nd part seems as if i was saying it now, but this
was all written in the same time.

It almost stands correct. Other than the "voice has changed" part

Hahaha...

until next time people. Take care

Words from a friend of mine :)

I had nothing to say on love today so i figured I'd find someone that did -

Girls that depend on guys for everything, ain't shit.

Driving you everywhere.
Paying for everything.
Gives you money all the time expecting you to pay him back but you don’t.
Buys all your drinks at the club, although you have your own money.
Even if he doesn't offer to buy you make it seem like he has to.

If you don't have a job? Get one.
If you don't have money at the time... Pay him back.
If you're just lazy and cheap, well then your just waste.

Yeah, sometimes it’s cute, sweet and expected.
But bitches take things for granted and they feel as if their the shit because a MAN buys you everything you have.
"Yeah my mans pays my phone bill, he drives me to mall whenever, blahblahblah, he buys my clothes."
Shut up, you sound so worthless.

But appreciate it and do over do it is all I'm saying.
But you have to show him what's good, show him what your capable of.
It's a much better turn on.
Independence, is the hottest thing.

Written by: A friend of mine

Favorite Film - Pursuit of Happiness

“Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. Not even me. You got a dream, you gotta protect it. People can’t do something themselves, they wanna tell you that you can’t do it. You want something? Go get it. Period.”

-Chris Gardner (played by Will Smith in The Pursuit of Happyness)

This quote encompasses one of the greatest lessons that we will ever learn in life. Nothing that is worthwhile comes easily. You should never let trivial things stop you from getting whatever it is that you want! No successful person lets stumbling blocks or unsupportive people get in the way of them reaching their goals. Those types of things differentiate people who are dedicated to reaching their goals and people who are just hoping that things will fall into their laps. If you haven’t already done so, think about things that you want to change or achieve 6 months from now, a year from now and so on. Make a plan of how you are going to accomplish this and put the plan into action. Easier said than done? Of course it is! Impossible? Definitely not. You can do anything that you put your mind to…

Keep this in mind when it comes to anything in life and its very likely that good things will happen to you.

Our So-Called 'Imperfections'

We are not perfect…and we are not meant to be or expected to be. You’ve heard this before, right? So then why do we spend so much time trying to make others think that we are perfect and lead the perfect lives? In striving for ‘perfection’ sometimes it is easy to neglect our problems and weaknesses, which if not addressed, will continue to hinder us from that ‘perfection.’ So many of us fail to acknowledge that we have problems and issues because in doing so, we also acknowledge that we are not perfect. But, as we quickly figure out–problems do not fix themselves or go away with time. They may ‘go away’ temporarily but sooner or later you will find yourself in the same place with the same problem you started with. As Albert Einstein once wisely said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” There comes a point when enough is enough and problems must be addressed, no matter how painful or difficult it may be. In facing your fears, weaknesses and imperfections, you will find yourself becoming more confident, stronger and more in order for success!

For example, let’s say that there’s a hypothetical young girl. She doesn’t like being alone and therefore is constantly searching for a person to fill that void and tends to lower her standards just to satisfy her WANT of not being alone. (Note the use of want vs. need) So she ends up with the company that she wanted, but they are not compatible with her because in the rush to fill that void, she neglected really getting to know that person better. She lowered her standards by allowing that person to get closer to her, but her true standards still exist and cause trouble in the relationship because her needs and expectations are not being met. The relationship then comes to its inevitable end and she is unfortunately back where she started. She has placed most of the blame for the situation on the other person’s inadequacies or immaturity. This allows her to feel better about herself by identifying other people’s weaknesses but not her own. And then along comes the next rebound guy…

Once she addresses her problem, she can figure out why she doesn’t like being alone and work towards developing a solution to her problem. As the causes vary, the solutions will too so there isn’t one set answer. She may have some abandonment issues from her childhood. She may have gotten out of a long term relationship and forgotten how to be alone. She may not have very high self esteem and uses the company of others to help validate herself. Once she takes the time to try to understand herself and her actions more, she can begin to ensure that she does not become the perfect example of Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity—destined to forever repeat the same meaningless cycle.

I think that the major part of our aspirations for perfection and success should be in identifying and dealing with the imperfections first, lest we not repeat the same mistakes! Take off the mask you are hiding under that prevents you from living a happier, more fulfilling life!

Walk away from drama...

Focus on money or somthing this year, avoid drama

There are people and things in this world that are extremely important and then there are people and things that aren’t. Unfortunately, distinguishing between the two can sometimes be a bit ambiguous and difficult. As a result, sometimes time and energy is wasted on irrelevant people and trivial things that in time won’t even matter anymore. The world is full of them…the fake, the haters, the unreliable, the inconsiderate, the unappreciative, and the list goes on. They are everywhere spreading their ‘trash’. There is no way to escape interactions with them. So then how do we deal?

If you come at these negative people with more negativity, it’s a sure fire way to perpetuate the negativity. I see this happen way too often and it really gets under my skin. If you really don’t care about someone and have moved on from something that they have done to you, you don’t need to corroborate it with words…it will be very apparent through your actions. You don’t need to put them on blast on social networks or anything else like that—it’s childish and has the opposite intended message. It’s not your job or responsibility to “make them pay” or teach them a lesson. When you set out to hurt people, most times you end up hurting yourself more or just looking childish like I said before. You also cannot teach anyone anything that they don’t want to learn.

Often times, dramatic people will target people who they think will help feed their need for drama. They enjoy being mad, complaining and arguing but would like you to think otherwise with their bogus claims of hating drama and having a low tolerance for people with the same negative characteristics they possess. People like that are just unhappy with themselves and try to spread the unhappiness to in some twisted way deal with their own feelings of inadequacies.

My suggestion is to just be the bigger person. It may seem like the better choice at the time would be to lash out and let your anger get the best of you but that is temporary. With that, in the end you are left with nothing. When you walk away, you leave foolishness right where you found it and your precious time and energy can be redirected to bigger and better things

Hurt?

Hurt and disappointment inflicted by others is an inevitable experience that we all must face at some point in our lives. Someone you trust, care about or maybe even love is going to let you down. You probably wondered why and what you did to deserve such treatment. These experiences, however, can potentially serve as lifelong lessons…if you let them. I have posted three common culprits.

The “Can’t Get Over the Past” Type People: There are just people in the world who are bitter, plain and simple. Someone hurt them or mistreated them so they vow to not invest their own emotions in people anymore. This is a mistake because they are making the world pay for the ignorant actions of a single person…or maybe they’ve been hurt by more than one person–who knows? Of the millions of people in the world, you think they are all out to get you? It’s quite silly and I’m not trying to downplay or discredit any trauma anyone has experienced in their lives to make them feel that way. The mistreatment that they experienced could be as minor as a crush embarrassing them in front of their friends or as major being molested by someone they trusted as a child. Making someone else feel the hurt and pain that you once felt and that was inflicted by someone else is just cruel to me. Get therapy, get help, do what you have to do…otherwise you will never be able to have a healthy, functional relationship and you will just be continuing the cycle…

The “Get You Before They Get Got” Type People: There are some people that have never been hurt but have this skewed logic that hurt is a part of all relationships so they decide they want to hurt other people first, before they are hurt themselves. This is just immaturity at its finest. No matter how hard you try, getting hurt is simply a part of life. Instead of trying to avoid it, embrace those learning experiences. The greatest and most fulfilling things in life require great risks! If you avoid taking those risks, you will never be able to reap those potential benefits and any hurt you experience along the way will only make you stronger for the undertaking of your next risk!

The “World Revolves Around Me” Type People: There are some people who are selfish. They are only concerned with themselves and who or what they can use to further their own agenda. Their agenda could be popularity or fame, could be getting rich, could be presenting a certain false image of themselves, trying to assure themselves or others of their importance, etc… (note the superficiality of all those things) A lot of these things are ways they try to fill a void by trying to convince the world that there is no void. “He’s rich? He must have everything he could ever want!!” “He’s got all these girls after him? What a lucky man!!” Please do NOT be fooled!

People that intentionally hurt other people, have issues! It is them, not you. You walk away feeling a little hurt and disappointed and they walk away with the same issues that they came in with, unresolved and awaiting a repeat with the next person. They will never have a healthy and functional relationship…but you? Once you deal with your emotions properly, you are ready for that next risk equipped with more smarts. Hopefully, you will not have to make that particular mistake twice. Nevertheless these people may come back with a new attitude, aware that you care for them, in terms of a relationship. But if someone cannot see past themselves and their personal issues to realize how amazing you are, then that is their loss and their mistake.

=)

Hurt?